We need to start being nicer to each other.


Following on from my previous social media blog post, I feel like I need to address another issue that is an increasingly dangerous byproduct of our 21st century addiction; cyberbullying.

Personally, I have never experienced cyberbullying first hand and I know that I'm lucky to be able to say that. I have also never been the cyberbully. I can hand on heart say that I have never left a mean comment on anyone's Instagram. I've never written a negative reply to an online article and I've never sent a nasty tweet. But the sad thing is, it appears to be rare in this day and age for someone to be able to say that.

Don't get me wrong, I'm not claiming to be a saint. I can be judgemental, I laugh at photos of celebrity 'fashion' and I've seen people post things on Facebook and Twitter that make me want to bash my head against a wall because of how silly or stupid they are - but I don't go into keyboard warrior mode and voice these thoughts and emotions from behind a screen. That's not to say that I don't stand up for what I believe in. If I go to the comment section of an article on the Daily Mail (yes, I'm guilty of getting my news fix from this very reliable source..) and someone has written something negative or hurtful - for example, about a person's appearance - I will reply and let them know that their words are unacceptable in the hope that they re-evaluate their attitudes. And if I do choose to reply, I do so in a respectful and non-aggressive way. I wouldn't insult the person or use negative language no matter how much I disagree with them because that's counter-productive and not in my nature. But in superficial terms such as not liking someone's outfit or thinking that someone is too fat or too skinny, those are the kind of comments that we can do without posting.

There is already so much negativity in the world and we already put ourselves under so much pressure that it blows my mind when people make a point of going out of their way to make someone feel bad about themselves. So what if you think that someone's lip fillers look dodgy, or if you don't like the brand of clothing that they're wearing, why would you feel the need to tell them that? They are obviously happy with how they look or how they spend their money and that's all that matters. Your negative opinion doesn't matter to them so why post it and risk not only making yourself look like a nasty, venomous person, but also ruining their day and hurting the feelings of someone that, most of the time, is a complete stranger to you.

I thought it was common sense to not be spiteful and to treat others the way you want to be treated but apparently, thanks to social media, cyberbullies are desensitised because they can't physically see the effect that their words/actions have on the person in real life. It's so easy for them to type out something horrible and then close the app and continue with their day without a second thought to how their comment has affected the person on the receiving end. I think the safety net of being behind a screen and the easy accessibility of social media has massively had an impact on the way people treat others and how they see themselves and other people.

If you're ever tempted to comment something negative on someone's profile, either a stranger or a celebrity - I think a lot of people don't see celebrities as 'real' people and don't think that their comment will have an impact because they're used to scrutiny - stop and ask yourself these three things:

- WHY am I posting this?
- WHAT is this going to achieve?
- HOW would I feel if this comment was directed at me/my friends/my family?

If people actually took a minute to really think about what they were posting, I think they'd reconsider their actions because at the end of the day, it's really not hard to be a decent human being. We need to spread love and positivity, be polite and considerate and stand up for ourselves and those around us. Making the world a better place and being nicer to each other can start with you :) x

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